So, I don’t want to discuss my divorce or the details of it but I can tell you that it was a long process, during which I faced some setbacks and delays which were difficult to deal with. Luckily I have a good group of friends and a supportive family who were amazing and put up with me during that time.

Whilst I was waiting for my divorce to be complete, I didn’t feel I could go out and ‘pull’, as I was technically still married and morally I would have seen this as adultery. Some people may not agree, think this is old fashioned or even like some sort of weird self punishment. However, I have to live with myself and so I chose to not do it.

Then it happened!! My divorce was finalised. I was free. It was a wonderful feeling.

Timing wise it worked out quite well as I had got a night out planned with some friends the following weekend. We went out in Birmingham, we laughed, we danced, we celebrated.

As the evening drew on we left one club and went on to another that stays open into the early hours. We danced some more. I noticed that a young man with a ginger beard was looking at me a lot. I decided to be brave after 10 years of being out of the game.

I beckoned him over to me, as he approached I said ‘I like your ginger beard’, this is true… thanks to the Ed Sheeran effect I do have a thing for ginger beards ;-).

We chatted, we kissed, he gave me his mobile number and his business card with his work numbers on. He was keen. This was a revelation to me. We kissed some more.

It was 3.30 am and I left the club and drove home (I don’t drink so it was safe).

I had no intention of contacting him, I hadn’t given him my number. It was what it was….an expression of my new found single status, my freedom and most importantly…my ability to be DESIRED!!!

I started to feel a new sensation…it’s called ‘HOPE’.