I don’t know what’s worse, being friend zoned or doing the friend zoning?!

In the last few weeks I’ve experienced both. I was friend zoned after a date that I thought went well and had hoped for a second date, to get to know the guy a bit better. Despite not being sure if I fancied him when I was on the date, I had felt that it had gone well, we had plenty to chat about, we had stuff in common and he made me laugh. At one point he referred to me as ” the female version of himself”. So I thought I was onto a winner for a go at a second date. Turns out I wasn’t. Ok, I’m over it now.

In the meantime I’d been on 2 dates with a man who is lovely, I just don’t fancy him. So when he asked me for a 3rd date, I let him down gently. I would love to be friends with him. It was a genuine friend zone situation. He made it clear he was gutted and has since told me so many lovely things. I feel horrendous about it.

So my question is…how long do you date if you don’t feel a spark? Perhaps being friend zoned after the first date was the kindest thing to do. Or perhaps we should give each other a few goes to be sure?!

I’m not sure I will ever know the answer…do you? X