Do men and women love the chase?!

How can you tell if the chase is all they’re interested in and once they’ve got what they want, they will just lose interest?

How can you tell if they are actually into you and just playing it cool?

These are all questions I’ve been asking myself recently as I embark on a new ‘relationship’.

They say women are the more mysterious sex, that we like to string people along, play silly mind games. I have to disagree.

I think men and women are just as bad as each other.

But is there really any point?!

I want to live in a world where we all express our feelings, where we can be brave enough to put ourselves on the line, to take a risk and show people how we feel. So what’s stopping us?

Fear.

I taught a lesson recently about how we should share with others our beliefs and I spoke about fear. I believe that fear is the biggest barrier we have in everything that we do in our lives, not just our love lives.

As humans, all we want is to not be alone. We have a pack mentality. We are not meant to live as an island. Therefore we put ourselves under pressure to be liked. At this point we have a lot of fear. Fear of rejection being the main issue. There’s nothing worse, it means we have to face the fact that not everyone is capable of liking us and possibly consider why that might be the case.

In situations where romance is involved, this fear is likely to be huge. This type of rejection is particularly hard to deal with as it means a person may not find us attractive enough, interesting enough, clever enough or worse…they just found someone better!!

The thing is, it’s all lies. Each of us is a wonderful creation, worthy of love without condition.

I saw a quote ‘rejection is the Lord’s protection’. Whether you’re religious or whether you just believe in the mantra ‘what will be will be’, this can be of some comfort as we embark on the tumultuous journey of dating and relationships.

In the Disney movies, the prince comes to the rescue in the end…

We can dream that this can be true for us too x