🎤🎼Tell me lies, tell me sweet little lies🎼🎤 said no woman in a relationship…ever!

I’ve been reflecting on the destructive nature of lies.

I have trust issues, which stem from various different men (and women). It gets to the point where, psychologically, it’s very difficult to regard any one man as different to the others in this respect. However, this is something that I do try to do. Luckily I have had wonderful male role models in my life through my Dad, Grandads and brothers. All of whom have treated women well and to my knowledge, not lied or cheated.

So I’m trying not to be a male basher . I’m also trying to raise my own son to treat women well and so try to speak positively of relationships, love and commitment at all times.

The thing is, once you find out about one lie it’s really difficult to not reflect upon other situations and doubt what you were told was happening.

Was he really where he said he was that time? 

Was he really out with the lads?

Are his kids just a great cover story for seeing someone else?

Yes, it’s ridiculous…I’m ridiculous! I need to get some counselling or something for this stuff.

Or do I? Perhaps these doubts are there for a reason.

All I know is this. I would rather hear the cold hard truth than to live happily believing a lie. As once a woman finds out the truth, regardless of the motives for a lie (to protect ego, to save an argument and misinterpretation of an innocent situation blah blah blah), it can be really difficult to regain trust. Distrust never breeds peace. Peace and happiness is what we should aspire for.

So fellas, tell us the truth. We might cry for a bit or get angry, but then a fair decision can be made based on facts, not fiction.

Grow some balls, be honest and let me deal with it….one way or the other.